What is Onbedoeldzwanger.info?
This website has been set up to help both women and men faced with unplanned pregnancies, to find the information and help they need.
Our team offers support online, on the phone or they will refer you to a local organization. The local organization will help you make an informed decision when it comes to the unplanned pregnancy.
How to reach us?
We are available 24 hours, 7 days a week. Call us on 0800 6160. You can also send us an e-mail on firstname.lastname@example.org. All team members speak English.
What are my options?
If you are pregnant, you have 4 options:
Raising the child yourself
You can choose to have the baby and take care of it yourself. During the pregnancy, it's possible that you may experience some mixed emotions and have lots of questions. This is why it’s a good thing to get things organized. Raising the child is something you don't have to do alone. You can get support from your partner and your parents, and there are organisations that can help you.
Even if you’re under 18, you can choose to carry on with your pregnancy and take care of the child yourself. However, you will not have parental authority over the child until you turn 18.
You choose to have the baby, but the child will be raised by foster carers. Alternatively, there is also the option of temporary foster care. Your child will be brought up by foster parents until you make a final decision. You keep in touch with your child. Arrangements are made on how these contact moments are managed. This option can also be considered if you’re under 18.
You choose to carry on with the pregnancy, but give up the child for adoption after birth. At the moment of adoption, the legal and social relationship with your child is terminated. It is important to give this a good thought. Many different organizations offer adoption support.
You can't give up your child if you're under 18. The child will be placed with a foster family until you become of age and you can officially give up the child for adoption.
You choose to end the pregnancy. This is called an abortion. The way to end the pregnancy depends on how far along you are and what feels as the best solution for you. Ending your pregnancy is possible until 22 weeks. If you’re between 22 and 24 weeks pregnant, a doctor may decide whether an abortion is still possible.
Even if you're under 18, an abortion can be an option for you. If you're 16 or 17 years old, you're allowed make your own decision to have an abortion. If you are under 16, you will likely need your parents' permission.
You can read more information in the brochure 'I'm pregnant. What should I do?'
Role of the man during the decision-making process
If your girlfriend or partner got pregnant, which was not meant to happen, this may have a big impact on your life as well. Your future may now seem very different from what you had in mind. Many women want to involve the man when they’re making a decision. But eventually it is the woman who will make the final choice on whether she will continue or end the pregnancy. If the woman’s choice is not the same as yours, this may be a challenge. You will find yourself in a situation in which you are no longer in control about your life. After all, it is the woman who decides whether you will become a father or not.
It is important to keep communicating if you want to help her make a decision. Listen to each other and try not to judge. Instead, allow yourself and her some space to think and read just your ideas. This offers the best chances of going through the process together.
An independent and unbiased counsellor can help you organize all the information and thoughts that are involved in making a decision. You can attend a counselling session together. During the meeting, the counsellor will listen to the points of view of both the man and the woman. It is also possible to schedule an individual counselling meeting.
What is counselling?
If you are faced with an unplanned or unwanted pregnancy, you can get help to make a decision about your or your partner’s pregnancy. There are organizations all over The Netherlands where you can get counselling to discuss the available options for dealing with an unplanned pregnancy. All counsellors know a lot about pregnancies and the available options. Contact a counsellor via telephone, (video) chat, WhatsApp or make an appointment at a location near you.
What organizations offer these services?
There are many different organizations that can help you make a decision. Choose a location on the map to find your nearest counselling organization.
Social map - key to symbols
Phone call: talk with a counsellor over the phone.
Chat/WhatsApp: start a text chat with a counsellor.
E-mail: e-mail contact with a counsellor.
Appointment at counselling location: meet a counsellor near you.
Video chat: start a video chat with a counsellor.
WhatsApp: text with a counsellor via WhatsApp.
This help is certified.
Crossed out euro sign: this counselling is free, no contribution will be required for the counselling.
Description of the counselling organizations
Offers unbiased counselling in case of unwanted or unplanned pregnancies. Focuses on wishes of the pregnant woman.
Fiom Utrecht helps women, men and/or couples throughout the Netherlands make an informed decision about their unplanned pregnancy. A counsellor with a lot of experience in this field will be your fixed contact. Fiom Utrecht is neither in favour, nor against having an abortion. We always underline the different options, focussing on the woman at all times. The counsellor is there to support her in making an informed decision. Fiom Utrecht may refer you to an organization that offers additional counselling.
Offers counselling with an impartial view on the situation and will support the decision that suits the woman best. We offer additional help and support.
Fiom Amsterdam/Altra Fiom helps women and parents to-be who are faced with an unplanned or unwanted pregnancy. The aim is to ensure a stable future for the child. Altra Fiom listens, offers support and discusses the options that will allow you to make a decision that is best in view of the situation. In consultation with you, we can offer further counselling through Altra - young mothers, both at home, remotely and in cooperation with other organizations. Other organizations may also ask for advice.
Offers counselling and encourages the woman to make her own choice based on well-founded information and support. With an open attitude we listen with warmth to the story of the woman (and other people involved).
Siriz’ principle is that all life is precious. We offer support to men and women who are struggling with making a choice on whether to end or continue the pregnancy. We can schedule a meeting to discuss the various options at various locations: at our office, on-line, at your home or somewhere else in the Netherlands. Our social workers take your doubts, questions and decisions seriously. If needed, Siriz also offers counselling and accommodation options for young mothers-to-be.
Offers counselling from the idea that people can make good, well-informed decisions based on impartial information. Ultimately, it’s the woman who decides.
GGD offers support aimed at the woman making the choice herself. Of course, the (ex)-partner/father may also be involved, but essentially, it's the woman who decides. If needed, GGD may refer you to its cooperation partners, such as social services. The social worker can help you with your unplanned pregnancy and she is able to provide you with information about birth control, STDs/HIV or other questions regarding sexuality.
Offers counselling without judgement, geared to women who are faced with an unplanned pregnancy. The focus is on the woman’s freedom of choice.
At Fiom The Hague, we want all women who are faced with an unplanned pregnancy to be able to get unbiased counselling. You can reach your own informed decision about the pregnancy if you increase your inner strength and if you’re able to take care of yourself. Professional social workers will discuss the options with you and will guide you in making a decision. They do this without any judging you or your situation. After you've made your decision, you can get extra counselling that supports you throughout the pregnancy or that helps you process the abortion.